One of the main causes of crisis in a relationship is the challenges brought about by the birth of children.
In essence parents get a second full time job on top of the one they already have and no instruction whatsoever on how to go about being a good parent.
I have been there and I have seen many others go through that with pain, sense of failure and frustration.
Raising your children should be a love quest, a great adventure full of learning moment. Having a child with the one you love should be a coronation of that love, not the end of it.
Gabor Mate has really interesting ideas about this. Being comfortable while spending time with your children is an important indicator that there is a flow of love and support that you manage to provide to your children. 'The share state of being' when with your children. 'The real relationship doesn't depend on worlds but in the capacity to be with'.
The child needs to feel that there is joy and love in the parents as a reaction to them being present.
Being in state to experience this with your parents, allows the children to develop in secure, strong and happy individual.
Behind every parent that doesn't manage to do this there is a reason, a pain, a trauma and a story. If you realize that you are struggling with this, don't put yourself down but ask for help.
In essence parents get a second full time job on top of the one they already have and no instruction whatsoever on how to go about being a good parent.
I have been there and I have seen many others go through that with pain, sense of failure and frustration.
Raising your children should be a love quest, a great adventure full of learning moment. Having a child with the one you love should be a coronation of that love, not the end of it.
Gabor Mate has really interesting ideas about this. Being comfortable while spending time with your children is an important indicator that there is a flow of love and support that you manage to provide to your children. 'The share state of being' when with your children. 'The real relationship doesn't depend on worlds but in the capacity to be with'.
The child needs to feel that there is joy and love in the parents as a reaction to them being present.
Being in state to experience this with your parents, allows the children to develop in secure, strong and happy individual.
Behind every parent that doesn't manage to do this there is a reason, a pain, a trauma and a story. If you realize that you are struggling with this, don't put yourself down but ask for help.
