I am happy to share three things that are easy to apply and can certainly support your healing process a great deal. I also feel the need to start with a disclaimer as the personal development work can go extremely fast or can take longer. This has mainly to do with really delicate balances that need adjustment and healing inside each of us and that is often not that easy to assess upfront, not even by the most experienced professional. I have seen so often people heal much faster than I thought possible and others show sign of deep wound also after a lot of good healing work. We are not all the same and feeling safe starts with appreciating who we are, the way we are and whatever this may mean.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe.
The first way I know is gratefulness. This entail that you, every day, really focus on feeling gratefulness: notice all that you can be grateful for in your life. Write down at least three things every day and try not to repeat the same things every day. Expand every day your ability to see how much there is to be grateful in your life. It can be little things, it can be people, from your present or from your past, it can be situation, luck and all sorts. Writing three different ones every day will create as archive of all the things you can be grateful for in life, a treasured reminder that expands with your ability to open your heart to gratefulness.
You will notice that entering this attitude daily changes your outlook at life and makes you realize your life is safer than you had realized. It is almost as if by opening your heart to gratefulness you were removing a mist that was making the world seaming so gloomy and scary.
Important to say is that being grateful doesn’t mean that you give up your dreams, plans and ambitions to grow, achieving more or dreaming ambitiously for your life, not at all. You will see that the state of gratefulness is quite empowering.
The second way to heal fear, open your heart and feeling more and more strong and safe is to pay compliments to others: the people you love, other people you know, but also people you meet and notice, there is no actual limit to how far you can bring this.
Don’t leave your comfort zone too quickly and don’t invent compliments. Just stay open during your day and feel free to express yourself if the opportunity present itself. The more open you manage to stay the more opportunity to pay compliments will become visible.
When you pay someone a compliment you are taking the lead and expressing yourself to price someone’s deed or value. That is quite an exercise in leadership and personal power, power of the heart in this case, as the compliments are the singing of your heart express into words.
If you notice that you struggle to find compliment to give I say, great of you to notice and then I would go back to asking yourself why is that. What feeling, experience, thought makes it so difficult to see beauty, goodness, positivity around you? There may be a treasure in your honest answer to this question, I hope you feel find this treasure and do great things with it.
The third way to counteract unhealthy fear is to focus often on your purpose, that is, your whys. We all have a strong connection to our purpose in life, however, there is no opportunity to cultivate that connection in schools, work environment or other social context. This is one reason reconnecting with your purpose could feel weird at first, still really important and quite revitalizing, in my opinion.
You may start asking why you did the study you did, if you were going back would you do the same? How do you imagine guiding your children through the same process when the time comes?
The same can be asked about your work or your relationship: why are you in the relationship you are now? If you could do it over, would you do something differently? If yes, why? Imagining guiding your children through decision in this field, what would you say and why?
As I said, these questions can feel uncomfortable at first, however, you will be happy you poked the bear after a while as the alternative is to going forward in a life that doesn’t really represents who you are and cannot allow you to be who you could be.
There is so much more to be said about fear, about all the different ways it can manifest, sneaky and subtly, to make us smaller, less visible, less important, less valuable, less successful and ultimately less happy.
To conclude this reflection I choose to share some inside in what is possible when fear is healed, to show you what is possible and why is worth it. The more fear is healed the more you say what you really think and this means showing up for who really are. This will make you visible, especially to like-minded people that resonate and appreciate who you are, your tribe. Withing a network of like-minded free-expressing individuals you will easily strive as you will feel safe and your creativity and intuition as well as your intellect will be fired up.
When you feel safer and less afraid you will also start to do more and more what you really like to do. This will allow you to develop your talents and skills, those skills that make you happy and where you are probably also good at. This is just the way to create something valuable, relevant and important for you and your environment. When you enter the doing from your flow of the heart energy, what you create contribute to a better and safer self that lives in a enhanced version of the world.
Last but not least, not by any stretch of the imagination, when we feel safer, stronger and less afraid without a danger, we listen to our intuition. Intuition is the voice of God, is our essence sending us messages. If you trust this you can follow your intuition even if you don’t understand why. It does require a discrete level of courage to be able to open up to intuition, however, you can take little step and asking your intuition which way to take to go where you are going today, or what to eat for lunch. Use intuition in a way that you feel safe and your intuition can show you the ropes of this new relationship with soul.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe.
The first way I know is gratefulness. This entail that you, every day, really focus on feeling gratefulness: notice all that you can be grateful for in your life. Write down at least three things every day and try not to repeat the same things every day. Expand every day your ability to see how much there is to be grateful in your life. It can be little things, it can be people, from your present or from your past, it can be situation, luck and all sorts. Writing three different ones every day will create as archive of all the things you can be grateful for in life, a treasured reminder that expands with your ability to open your heart to gratefulness.
You will notice that entering this attitude daily changes your outlook at life and makes you realize your life is safer than you had realized. It is almost as if by opening your heart to gratefulness you were removing a mist that was making the world seaming so gloomy and scary.
Important to say is that being grateful doesn’t mean that you give up your dreams, plans and ambitions to grow, achieving more or dreaming ambitiously for your life, not at all. You will see that the state of gratefulness is quite empowering.
The second way to heal fear, open your heart and feeling more and more strong and safe is to pay compliments to others: the people you love, other people you know, but also people you meet and notice, there is no actual limit to how far you can bring this.
Don’t leave your comfort zone too quickly and don’t invent compliments. Just stay open during your day and feel free to express yourself if the opportunity present itself. The more open you manage to stay the more opportunity to pay compliments will become visible.
When you pay someone a compliment you are taking the lead and expressing yourself to price someone’s deed or value. That is quite an exercise in leadership and personal power, power of the heart in this case, as the compliments are the singing of your heart express into words.
If you notice that you struggle to find compliment to give I say, great of you to notice and then I would go back to asking yourself why is that. What feeling, experience, thought makes it so difficult to see beauty, goodness, positivity around you? There may be a treasure in your honest answer to this question, I hope you feel find this treasure and do great things with it.
The third way to counteract unhealthy fear is to focus often on your purpose, that is, your whys. We all have a strong connection to our purpose in life, however, there is no opportunity to cultivate that connection in schools, work environment or other social context. This is one reason reconnecting with your purpose could feel weird at first, still really important and quite revitalizing, in my opinion.
You may start asking why you did the study you did, if you were going back would you do the same? How do you imagine guiding your children through the same process when the time comes?
The same can be asked about your work or your relationship: why are you in the relationship you are now? If you could do it over, would you do something differently? If yes, why? Imagining guiding your children through decision in this field, what would you say and why?
As I said, these questions can feel uncomfortable at first, however, you will be happy you poked the bear after a while as the alternative is to going forward in a life that doesn’t really represents who you are and cannot allow you to be who you could be.
There is so much more to be said about fear, about all the different ways it can manifest, sneaky and subtly, to make us smaller, less visible, less important, less valuable, less successful and ultimately less happy.
To conclude this reflection I choose to share some inside in what is possible when fear is healed, to show you what is possible and why is worth it. The more fear is healed the more you say what you really think and this means showing up for who really are. This will make you visible, especially to like-minded people that resonate and appreciate who you are, your tribe. Withing a network of like-minded free-expressing individuals you will easily strive as you will feel safe and your creativity and intuition as well as your intellect will be fired up.
When you feel safer and less afraid you will also start to do more and more what you really like to do. This will allow you to develop your talents and skills, those skills that make you happy and where you are probably also good at. This is just the way to create something valuable, relevant and important for you and your environment. When you enter the doing from your flow of the heart energy, what you create contribute to a better and safer self that lives in a enhanced version of the world.
Last but not least, not by any stretch of the imagination, when we feel safer, stronger and less afraid without a danger, we listen to our intuition. Intuition is the voice of God, is our essence sending us messages. If you trust this you can follow your intuition even if you don’t understand why. It does require a discrete level of courage to be able to open up to intuition, however, you can take little step and asking your intuition which way to take to go where you are going today, or what to eat for lunch. Use intuition in a way that you feel safe and your intuition can show you the ropes of this new relationship with soul.
