There are other questions to ask yourself before: Who am I?
This morning I was listening to a very interesting TED talk when the speaker started talking about how important it is to know who we are so that we can truly be ourselves, live the life we were born to live and be happy.
Perhaps because I was walking in nature while listening and this, you know, predisposes you to a deeper contact with yourself and with what surrounds you, or perhaps because in the last period I have learned more deeply the effect that the emotional injuries suffered in childhood can have when we are adults, in any case my reflection was: but how do we find out who we really are if all our energy is invested in surviving all the wounds we carry with us?
Metaphorically I would define it as trying to dance in ballet shoes with a 15kg backpack on your shoulders: apparently possible, not particularly nice to look at and certainly unnecessarily tiring.
So my reflection is: wouldn't it be better to start by healing the wounds?
My hypothesis is that when the wounds are healed, our true essence, the truest and most intimate self, emerges naturally and there is no longer any need to ask ourselves 'who am I?', because at that point you know it, you feel it and you it seems obvious.
My personal experience as a growing human being and as a therapist, but also as a person living among other people, is that knowing yourself strengthens you, the stronger you are internally the more you are able to face your wounds inside and heal them and the closer you get to who you really are.
If you feel like you don't have hurts from the past it could be that the hurts are there but they are very well camouflaged but, if that is the case, you will notice in some areas of your life that things are not really going well or that to make it seems like they go well, costs you a huge effort.
Lately it is becoming more and more evident how intelligence can be an obstacle to happiness. The smarter you are, the more likely you are to hide how you really feel and make it seem like everything is fine to the outside world.
However effective this strategy is, often working unconsciously, in fostering an image of good functioning of the individual in his/her environment, what we witness in these cases is an isolation of the individual and the invisibility of his/her discomfort. No one sees the problem, so no help is offered.
Sadly I've never met anyone who didn't need to heal something psychic, emotional or spiritual, just as I've never met anyone who never needed a doctor or even a Band-Aid. We are human beings, not only biological organisms but also and above all souls embodied in physical, mental and emotional bodies that need regular maintenance because they are sophisticated and constantly evolving organisms.
My invitation therefore is to consider how you can heal yourself within from the pain you carry and in doing so pave your way towards the inevitable and gradual discovery of who you are.
Don't think it takes years, it happens more often than you think that after a couple of months my clients suggest to reduce frequency of sessions because they already feel so much better.
Don't even think that it has to be a painful path, in my experience the best way to achieve results is to collaborate so that it is an harmonious road that respects your boundaries.
This morning I was listening to a very interesting TED talk when the speaker started talking about how important it is to know who we are so that we can truly be ourselves, live the life we were born to live and be happy.
Perhaps because I was walking in nature while listening and this, you know, predisposes you to a deeper contact with yourself and with what surrounds you, or perhaps because in the last period I have learned more deeply the effect that the emotional injuries suffered in childhood can have when we are adults, in any case my reflection was: but how do we find out who we really are if all our energy is invested in surviving all the wounds we carry with us?
Metaphorically I would define it as trying to dance in ballet shoes with a 15kg backpack on your shoulders: apparently possible, not particularly nice to look at and certainly unnecessarily tiring.
So my reflection is: wouldn't it be better to start by healing the wounds?
My hypothesis is that when the wounds are healed, our true essence, the truest and most intimate self, emerges naturally and there is no longer any need to ask ourselves 'who am I?', because at that point you know it, you feel it and you it seems obvious.
My personal experience as a growing human being and as a therapist, but also as a person living among other people, is that knowing yourself strengthens you, the stronger you are internally the more you are able to face your wounds inside and heal them and the closer you get to who you really are.
If you feel like you don't have hurts from the past it could be that the hurts are there but they are very well camouflaged but, if that is the case, you will notice in some areas of your life that things are not really going well or that to make it seems like they go well, costs you a huge effort.
Lately it is becoming more and more evident how intelligence can be an obstacle to happiness. The smarter you are, the more likely you are to hide how you really feel and make it seem like everything is fine to the outside world.
However effective this strategy is, often working unconsciously, in fostering an image of good functioning of the individual in his/her environment, what we witness in these cases is an isolation of the individual and the invisibility of his/her discomfort. No one sees the problem, so no help is offered.
Sadly I've never met anyone who didn't need to heal something psychic, emotional or spiritual, just as I've never met anyone who never needed a doctor or even a Band-Aid. We are human beings, not only biological organisms but also and above all souls embodied in physical, mental and emotional bodies that need regular maintenance because they are sophisticated and constantly evolving organisms.
My invitation therefore is to consider how you can heal yourself within from the pain you carry and in doing so pave your way towards the inevitable and gradual discovery of who you are.
Don't think it takes years, it happens more often than you think that after a couple of months my clients suggest to reduce frequency of sessions because they already feel so much better.
Don't even think that it has to be a painful path, in my experience the best way to achieve results is to collaborate so that it is an harmonious road that respects your boundaries.
