In relationships, we constantly send out small signals (or "bids") for attention, affection, or support—like sharing a funny story, asking for advice, or even just making eye contact.
How you respond to these bids shapes the strength of your connection. You have three choices:
1. Turn Towards – Engage with warmth and interest (e.g., "That’s funny! Tell me more.").
2. Turn Away – Ignore or dismiss the bid (e.g., staying silent or looking at your phone).
3. Turn Against – React with irritation or hostility (e.g., "Why are you bothering me?").
Couples who consistently turn towards each other build trust and emotional closeness. Even small moments—like acknowledging your partner’s excitement or offering a reassuring touch—create a foundation for long-term intimacy and happiness.
How you respond to these bids shapes the strength of your connection. You have three choices:
1. Turn Towards – Engage with warmth and interest (e.g., "That’s funny! Tell me more.").
2. Turn Away – Ignore or dismiss the bid (e.g., staying silent or looking at your phone).
3. Turn Against – React with irritation or hostility (e.g., "Why are you bothering me?").
Couples who consistently turn towards each other build trust and emotional closeness. Even small moments—like acknowledging your partner’s excitement or offering a reassuring touch—create a foundation for long-term intimacy and happiness.
