a Divorce and then what?

As far as I know 1 out of 3 relationships end up in a divorce. I myself know that also at first hand. I've been there. Twice.

Separating when having children together, and especially when there's too much animosity, can feel devastating.
Apart from financial issues, there's the impact of not being able to see and connect to your children (and ofcourse vice versa!) on a daily basis. Also finding a house, and before that perhaps being forced to have to sell your home. And so much more.

I've learned that fighting stopped when I turned inside. What do I sense and feel, my thughts, beliefs. Getting more clarity in this made me change bit by bit, and from there the respons of the environment (ex + people) seemed to change with it. At least in the sense of being (more) open to listen and come to a kind of concensus. So , my life got lighter and I came gradually out of my survival modes.
Next to that I learned wat I really want to do in Life, where my talents could be fruitfully offered and acknowledged.

So, seeking professional help, turning inside, getting eager to learn and to grow and develop, helpe me to mourn, to accept, to get in a better place.

I don't know if you've ever heard of Tarot cards? In this field is being said: 'You have to walk the Path of the hero'.
Well, the beauty is,when we do, Life tends to help us along the way.